Remember this one? After all, n o one is exempt from Motherhood in Real Life Syndrome, which strips away all those good intentions we all had during pregnancy. Like a t all. Breastfeeding was backfiring. She wanted to be picked up.
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We develop these beliefs from the pressure of our communities and society as a whole, the experiences with our own parents, and through the expectations of friends, family, and media. So difficult, in fact, that anxiety, depression, and overwhelming emotion can latch on like crazy to our new identity. I want to share a brief story with you about a mom who I saw in my office this summer. This mom has given me permission to share her process around the topic of being a good mother , because it gives such a clear example of the ways in which perfectionist thinking and unachievable expectations can lead to distress. She was attractive, articulate, and also very scared by the unpleasant thoughts and anxieties she had been feeling since her baby was born. Celia described sleepless nights of worry, her lack of appetite, fear and insecurity about being alone with her baby, and the pure distress that was accompanying early motherhood. She told me, through tears and obvious guilt, that she was having very scary thoughts of hurting her baby or herself, thoughts that terrified her, she said, because she did not want her baby or herself to be hurt.