The idea of getting off on not getting off might sound a little contradictory, but for many people, orgasm denial is a seriously pleasurable addition to sex and masturbation. Orgasm denial is the act of experiencing or allowing someone else to experience a high level of sexual pleasure for a long time without allowing an orgasm. Erotic sexual denial can strengthen your intimacy with a partner and lead you both to high levels of sexual stimulation without actually orgasming. This technique can also create an intense orgasm during solo masturbation. Deliberately holding yourself back or forbidding yourself to come can lead to amplified erotic fantasties and heighten the anticipation of climax.
A beginner’s guide to orgasm control for men by a former dominatrix
What Is Orgasm Denial? 6 Ways To Try It With Your Partner
Orgasm denial is a kind of sex play that involves maintaining a high level of arousal for an extended period of time without orgasm. This practice is often used in conjunction with BDSM. During orgasm denial, the dominant partner will usually stimulate the submissive partner to the brink of orgasm and then abruptly stop all stimulation. This cycle may be repeated as the partners wish. There are several ways that orgasm denial can occur. Chasity belts or other devices can be used to prevent any stimulation of the genitals, while other methods can involve direct stimulation and withdrawal of stimulation.
Takeaway: Orgasm denial isn't just for kinksters. You can use it to enhance your relationship - or even by yourself! Orgasms offer a myriad of health benefits. They aid in relieving stress, boost the immune system, fight insomnia, and may even reduce the likelihood of prostate cancer.
Many a professional dominatrix will tell you she will not allow submissives to orgasm during the session. I did. Mainly because if they did cum halfway through, it meant I could clock off early and get on with a nice boxset. Of course, if they specifically asked for orgasm control or chastity then we could start to play with a variety of devices — both physical and psychological — that come in pretty handy for me.